SO WHAT?

“For there is nothing hidden that will not be disclosed, and nothing concealed that will not be known or brought out into the open.” (Luke 8:17, NIV)

There’s a guy (I’ll call him Ted) whose personal life is a total disaster. He’s been married and divorced twice. He’s currently cheating on his third wife. Ted doesn’t know how to say “no” to a woman (or to a drink during happy hour). Everyone in his workplace is aware of his indiscretions, but they all turn a blind eye. They all excuse Ted’s behavior.

Perhaps they excuse him because Ted is an accomplished business person. He’s known around town as one of the most influential people in his field. His company is making money hand over fist. His personal life doesn’t seem to affect his work life. Although most of his friends are worried that he’s going to have one drink (or one woman) too many, almost everyone seems to accept his risqué lifestyle.

His friends and associates defend him saying, “Ted is well-respected. His private life is nobody’s business! Leave him alone!”

So who are we to judge? So what if Ted is cheating on his wife? So what if he’s an alcoholic and is regularly hung over in business meetings? So who really cares as long as he isn’t hurting anyone (except his wife, and she knew what he was like when she married him)? So what?

The bible says:

“Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.” (Luke 6:37, NIV)

We shouldn’t judge. Ted’s behavior should be a wake-up call for each of us. We should take a look at our own lives. What we do when no one is looking is who we really are. If we compromise our values in private, most likely we will also compromise them in public.

Take a close look at your life this Friday. Our job is not to judge – that’s up to God. Our job is to “love one another.” (John 13:34, NIV) God loves Ted; so should we.

Enjoy your weekend, “Working for Christ”!

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17 Comments on “SO WHAT?”


  1. Please read 1 Corinthians 5: 9-13 – VERSE 13 – “Expel the wicked man from among you.” That tells me to get away from them any way possible. If they are a part of your church or friend or family member. Those outside are already being judged. I hear people say all the time that “God is a loving, accepting and compassionate God, He doesn’t judge;” and He is. But as far as I’m concerned He is also The Judge and folks had better have a healthy fear of Him.
    Great post but if Ted was my brother, my son, my loved one, I’m telling him where his lifestyle is leading him. As one saved by the grace of God, I know and it is my duty to spread the word.

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    • Dave Boller Says:

      Thanks so much for your comment. God is definitely the Judge. The one thing we don’t want to do is to come off with a “holier than thou” attitude and alienate Ted further from the Lord. Not only are we instructed to spread the word, we are also instructed to live the word! God bless you! 🙂

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      • I can be a humble christian and live in faith and let my life be an example but you must see that Ted is going to continue and probably die if we as caring messengers of Christ do not tell him. We can pray for him and treat him with love and respect but we must, no matter how he reacts, even if he decides to cut us out of his life, in my opinion, tell him at least twice. I am not doing God’s will if I don’t. We cannot sit by passively and watch people kill themselves because we don’t want to upset them. I know what you are saying but I have such a strong conviction about this because of people that I love. God bless you too.

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      • Dave Boller Says:

        I am agreeing with you 100%. The whole purpose of this post is for us not to judge, but to be compassionate.

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    • Well said! I believe that people get off on the wrong side of what the bible means when it says judge not that ye be not judged, and then later in scripture we are to mark those that walk unruly and we are to separate ourselves from them. It would appear to be a contradiction.
      We are cautioned over and over again throughout scripture to guard ourselves against rubbing elbows with those that are evil and/or disobedient to God’s commandments. If we were not to judge then church discipline would be out the door in the case of the man that was committing fornication with one of his father’s wives. (1 Corinthians 5:5) The entire chapter of 1 Corinthians 5 tells us not to keep company with people that are doing things contrary to what the Lord wants us to do. When we are told judge not lest ye be judged we need to always bear in mind that we too commit sin and we need to be careful not to judge a person in such a way as to make us Judge, jury and executioner.
      We need to pray for people to be delivered from the hand of Satan. In due time God will judge the wicked and He will condemn them and cast the wicked into Hell, so we need to be careful not to act as though we were God in that we condemn a person to death. Before any of us got saved we too were walking in sin just as this man Ted. Maybe not the same exact sins, but the bible says, “For whosoever shall keep the whole law, and yet offend in one point, he is guilty of all.” James 2:10
      Only God can totally Judge, condemn and wipe away or destroy sin. It’s not for us to act in His stead.

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  2. Your Post keep getting better and better just like a seasoned coffee pot!!!! And that’s a compliment…. 🙂 Take Care and God Bless Kenny T

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  3. Reblogged this on khrystleraineduste and commented:
    Lord, don’t look too close, okay… *smile*… A true wake up call… and pray for ‘Ted’…

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  4. We think we can separate our professional life from our personal life from our faith life. We might be able to get away with it for awhile, but eventually, it catches up to us.

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    • I must apologize for not replying back to you in November when you wrote this. I was going through a series of computer crashes and problems and somehow I never got the comment until now.
      What you had to say is so true! And as a professional you have a place in this world where you can help others and show them that they can follow the Lord and still be a Doctor or a Lawyer or whatever the honorable case may be. The Apostle Luke was a Physician (Colossians 4:14) and wrote not only the book of Luke but is believed to also have written the book of Acts.
      Sometimes being a business professional we get caught between the proverbial rock and a hard place, which means that we will be confronted with taking a stand for that which is right. Only we can decide how heaven will record the history of our decisions.
      We will always face choices in our life where we either choose to follow and obey or disobey the Lord. It takes strong convictions and a real determination to do the right thing. Others value to reality of the Lord and the worthiness of following Him by the testimony that we lay before them.
      I have always said that the hardest part about being a Christian is being a Christian.
      May the Lord walk with you and guide you through every area of your life.

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  5. garden2day Says:

    This is tough and not all things have cookie cutter answers but brotherly love happens when someone we know is hurting someone else…when we do not point out their problems (sins) by taking a holier than thou attitude but we take their hand and help them by becoming a friend, living by example…intervening when possible, etc. We cannot condone and we shouldn’t stand by. I think we should involve ourselves. Yikes!

    I know Ted and Ted needs help. If I was Ted and understood what was at stake, I would want help but I’m not Ted. Judging others separates us and we are all sinners. Loving compassionately by not closing the door to others is the way I see it but we are all different. I know people can change if given the chance. Someone has to stand in the gap… Take care! And, thank you.

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  6. Pray for Ted, sit with him and give him a wake up call. Not only is he hurting his wife and family but his health and spiritually his soul. God works miracles and He can change Ted then think if all that gusto he puts into drinking and cheating was instead a fire for the Lord what a reward for all!

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